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While each one us have a mask we hide behind, the truth is no matter what, our real self comes out in some way or another
R Sridhar
It’s strange, isn’t it, that we spend much of our waking hours in camouflaging
ourselves - in hiding our true self from the outside world. It could be in the
form of make-up to hide our dermatological flaws, or clothes to hide physical
irregularities, or false expressions to hide our true feelings, or having attitudes
to hide our fears. Sadly, little do we realise that try as we may, we will never
be able to fully succeed in painting a different (read better) picture about ourselves.
That’s because verbal communication is only a part of our communication package.
Largely, we communicate non-verbally, through body language, gestures, behaviour,
habits, etc. Also, there are various sciences that help to read a person like
a book - like physiognomy (face reading), graphology (handwriting analysis), palmistry,
astrology, numerology, even doodling for that matter and of course, the best among
them all - understanding energy levels of a person.
These are of course the formal ones. Apart from this, one can analyse personality
by observing gait, sleep postures, swing of the hands while walking, hairstyle,
table manners, dressing sense, email etiquette, telephone etiquette...why even
from left-over tea bags!
Knowledge of these sciences helps a lot, especially when meeting people. For instance,
when appearing for an interview, it would help to know the mind of the interviewer
simply by understanding his gestures, doesn’t it? On the other hand, if an
interviewer receives a hand-written resume, he can use graphology and numerology
(by seeing the birth date) to judge the candidate. And during the interview, the
candidate will offer more room for discovery - his palms, gestures, clothes, facial
structure, et al.
Do you realise that in the process of making a fool of others, we end up making
bigger fools of ourselves. The truth is we cannot camouflage ourselves fully:
we spill the beans in some way or the other, often without our knowledge.
Since people communicate different types of information at different levels of
understanding, you can derive immense benefits by understanding non-verbal language.
Anybody with a fair idea of these sciences can make his way through life by choosing
the “right” person, the “right” time, and the “right
place” for doing their work.
This is a learning process that could be as difficult as learning a foreign language.
Ideally, set aside some time daily to study these sciences. Buy some books on
these subjects from the market. And most importantly, make it a habit to observe
people. Utilise your travel time to do this exercise.
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